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March 17, 2018

Voice

The Problem

She did everything right

She told the truth
She came in when asked
She spoke for the first time the unimaginable to a stranger in a room with mirrors and a camera aimed at her
I signed the paper allowing this to be filmed.
I was told it would be secure
I was told it would only be used in prosecuting the case
I was told it was in her best interest.
We did everything we were asked to do and then we left.
We waited and waited to hear what would happen.
He said he didn’t do it
He said she is a liar
There isn’t enough evidence NOT to believe him
Case closed
That’s the end
Actually no because abusers love the opportunity to abuse
This gave him the opportunity
He appealed the true finding
He was not only given the right and privilege to know every detail of what she said in the interview but
He was also given the right and privilege to watch her describe these unspeakable acts that he used for his sexual pleasure.
He was given the right and privilege to have a copy of that DVD – to keep and watch at his leisure or show others.
He was given the right and privilege to know her address even though a judge had given her protection from him.
He was given the right and privilege to to come to a hearing in a small office
The judge, who is an attorney acting as a judge for this hearing, would be on a voice call on a phone.
He would be given the right and privilege to be near her again
To ask her anything he wanted about him sexually abusing her
He would be given the right and privilege to be near me and ask me anything he wanted.
The man that had abused me and all of my children, that I spent 5 years fighting for freedom and protection from was given an opportunity to abuse us again.
An opportunity attorneys had fought hard for us to protect us from and another judge had taken from him 2 years ago.
Would she be given the right and privilege to be defended? No – no legal counsel or protection for her like last time when she had an attorney ad litem defending her so she never had to come to court. This time there was only a forensic Interviewer that is trained to interview.
The judge said there wasn’t a 50% chance she was telling the truth
The judge said there was more than a 50% chance she lied.
The judge said there was more than a 50% chance that he never raped her.
The judge said there was more than a 50% chance he was telling the truth
Did she get her voice back?
Or did her abuser?

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